In my previous post I have looked at the quality of Real Men and although I believe this applies to all men irrespective of nationality, I think their is some peculiarity and difference between Real Men from different continent and tribes…
AFRICAN Men grow up with a mindset that tells them that they must provide all for their spouse and children, it is a disgrace for an AFRICAN REAL MEN for his wife to take care of the Financial task at home. AFRICAN REAL MEN will never be proud that his wife will take care of bills when they go out on a dinner date.
A Real AFRICAN man does not really consider the view of his partner in matters relating to relationship and finances, I however think this is the characteristic of an outdated Real AFRICAN man, an AFRICAN REAL MEN of these age should take advantage of the high intelligence of our modern AFRICAN woman in making better decisions.
A Real AFRICAN man of ages past does not openly show love to his spouse, neither will he try to assist her in duties at home which has been culturally designated for a woman but a truly modern Real Men will always show love to his partner anywhere and AT all times and his love for his partner will make him to carry out house chores as he knows he is truly helping himself.
An AFRICAN REAL MEN of centuries ago is A polygamist who greatest treasure is the number of childre
n he can produce from as much wife’s as possible as the more children he has more produce will he get from it ……
AFRICAN Men most however be Real Men of now,
Honest, trustworthy , and the Best
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You know there is an ongoing case here in Nigeria about a woman who killed her husband during a period of marital disagreements. You know it is really very interesting to see a couple quarrel over issues that looks very trivial , this however can become frightening when dangerous weapons are used by both partners.
A pastor in church talked about a marriage Being a contract signed between two people in the presence of God and such contract should not be broken for Any reason but that the two must ensure to work as one. He said that is What for BETTER or for Worst means.
As a man and as a Real Man, I totally agree that marriages are contract agreement between two people who has agreed to stay TOGETHER, to love each other and to grow and become great TOGETHER.
For BETTER is at times when your wife provides you with a good meal and after which she willingly gives her body to you for love making. Sex is for BETTER for a Real Man, sex cements and gives the Real Man something that is priceless, that thing that makes him forget
about the dream that is taking time to birth and other life issues.
For BETTER is when his partner is pregnant with his child and ultimately gives birth to a child that will bear his name.
For BETTER for a Real Man is when his dream births and he can do much more for his family than he even promised
For BETTER is when a man see his children growing to become good adult after receiving good Training and up bringing from their mother
For BETTER is when a partner clicks into her man dreams and TOGETHER they build a great future for all his family.
Now let us look at for Worst marriages
For a Real Man for Worst marriages is when a
wife will not care to take care of the home and the children and especially if she is A house wife.
A Worst marriages is A nagging, A complaining and an ever in satisfy able woman.
A woman who can not click into his dreams but Instead tries to discourage him from pursuing his dreams.
NO Real Man want a dirty lazy woman who is unambitious
💟💟 luv and trust keeps marriages, every partner must trust complete the other partner and must always keep their initial luv burning because at the end that is What will be remaining.
Some things are Worst than Worst and when such situation arises contract of marriages must be broken otherwise the couple will live a frustrating and useless life that will SURELY affect the quality of child Training and other areas of their life. Life is too short for one to live in perpetual pain and agony.
A wife who cares less about her husband but more for herself and her brothers, sisters and parents is more than Worst
A wife who is adulterous is A killer and a Real Man must break the contract as soon as possible.
Unfaithfulness is What I call the Worst sin in marriage and if you cannot forget it as a Real Man do not force yourself to continue in the marriage because it will destroy both of you and your family.
I will like to hear your comments on issues that should lead to dissolution of marriages.
When a Real Man has reached a particular age he feels the need to become joined to his female partner in matrimony to become one married couple. Marriage to a Real Man is part of What makes a Real Man become highly responsible. A married man is A man who is Extra DISCIPLINED because having made his mind up on becoming one with his partner he always now will only do things that will favour First his family before he thinks of himself. A Real Man who is Married will never compromise his children education because of Anything. He will always defend his family against all form of biological and physical aggression. A Real Man man married does not look at his wife as a necessary evil which he uses for sex, procreation and general housekeeping. A Real Man looks as his wife as his friend, not just Any friend but his best friend.
Some women do not sometimes know how to recognise who a true husband is but they generally believe that Any man is A husband not knowing that only Real Men produces Real husband.
At church today the preacher man said marriage is A covenant signed in a for BETTER or worse situation and that such covenant should not be broken. I agree with him but i think we need to look at What is for Worst so that we can decide at What point the above Worst crime has been committed by Any of the partner that will be enough reason for a separation or ultimately a divorce.
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The Best MAN is very much available. Every Man want to be the Best MAN and Every woman want to be only with the Best MAN in her society. If we say some Men are the Best Men that means that some men are Worst Men. But who do we go to that will give us a near perfect definition of What criteria we can use to distinguish between a Best MAN and a Worst Man.
From a Man view, The Best MAN may be the guy who has made most money than most of his equals or the Best MAN may be the guy with the most prettiest and sexiest partner that other guys admire. The Best MAN for guys can also be the guy who he attained great personal success in academics and research but most guys of this age does not really consider academics and research as success except if it translate to liquid money. Worst Men for guys are men who are controlled by their female partners or are guys who The famous Destiny Child music group describe as Scrubs, guys who sit at the passenger side of their best friend car but who can not afford to buy a tyre for such vehicle. A Worst guy according to most guys is someone who has NO plan to become successfully who lives live as if he will die within some very few years.
But What do Women think about who Best MAN and Worst Men are?
It will intrest you on What they will say
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Do you know that one Billion DOLLARS in Nigeria can sustain about 2 states for a whole year. I was just thinking about the great injustice that occur in the world, A situation where people are made to live on less than a dollar per day while a very minute few live within very very great wealth. How does the imbalance in wealth distrubution affect men, these issues will be looked at as our next topic on Real Men.
But let us finally look at the quality of a Real Man
A Real Man Is A dreamer and one who will work towards achieving his goals and who will not just dream as others do but his dream is the kind of dream that others will laugh at because they think it is unachievable.
A Real Man does not change his Goals because of What people think neither does a Real Man join the majority in doing What they think is right.
A Real Man is A Family Man who knows that spending quality time with his family and providing the best life for them and also ensuring that their tomorrow is secured by his actions today is What makes a Real Man.
A Real Man does not easily get angry and Instead he listens and analyses all he hears before giving a feedback so that at all times he makes positive contributions..
A Real Man is A Godly Man who believes that a Supreme Being exist that created the earth and everything in it, this point may not be accepted by all but as a Real Man I think God do exist
A Real Man is A happy man at the end of his lifetime because he must have achieved all and much more than he dreamt of.
Dorchester will like to hear your opinion on these points I raised
Your comments will be appreciated
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It is 8 days since I last published, I had been offline for some days due to Nigeria network reason. You know in Nigeria, We live in a different world where the basics things of life have become hard to come by. We live in a world where the 99% of people are left to provide water, electricity and other amenities.
Sorry for the distraction, I was suppose to talk on the last of my point on who is not a Real Man
My last point is that a Real Man is not A QUITTER.
A REAL MAN DOES NOT QUIT ON LIFE EASILY.
A REAL MAN DOES NOT QUIT ON HIS RELATIONSHIP JUST BECAUSE HIS PARTNER DID NOT SERVE HIM HIS FOOD AS WHEN DUE OR REFUSED HIM SEX BECAUSE HE DID NOT BUY THAT NECKLACE FOR HER AS PROMISED
A REAL MAN DOES NOT REMAIN DOWN BECAUSE HE LOST HIS JOB, A REAL MAN DOES NOT QUIT ON HIS DREAMS
A REAL MAN DOES NOT QUIT ON BEING OPTIMISTIC ABOUT HIS COMMUNITY AND COUNTRY
A REAL MAN DOES NOT QUIT ON HIS TRUE FRIENDS
A REAL MAN DOES NOT QUIT ON BEING REAL.
WE WILL BE LOOKING AT WHAT A REAL MAN IS IN MY NEXT POST. PLEASE FOLLOW ME ON http://www.dorchesterdotcom.wordpress
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